I have LOVED getting to know Megan from This Beautiful Truth over the past week during our blog mentorship time. Her blog is refreshing and will leave you feeling encouraged.
I'm excited about her post today... I think that anyone who is a mom can completely relate to the season of life that she is in.
ENJOY and make sure to follow her in the following places!
Hi, I'm Megan - lover of Christ, wife to my worship leader husband Brandon, new mom to my 9-mo. old miracle daughter Liv and soon-to-be Ugandan son. I also work part-time as a pediatric oncology nurse and blog over at This Beautiful Truth about motherhood, infertility/adoption and living simply with my family. I would love for you to stop by and say hello!
I've been thinking lately about this idea of seasons in motherhood. I'll admit, this wasn't something I fully understood until I became a mother. I don't think you can truly know how different your life will be until that sweet, tiny babe enters the world and forever changes yours. I sure didn't.
Before she was born I remember thinking things like, "I will still do the same things I do now, I'll just bring my baby with me, and she can sleep in the carseat". Sometimes that does happen (although for us not the sleeping in the carseat part!), but I have learned that oftentimes I need to say no to things, because it just wouldn't be the best thing for Liv or for us right now.
Many times these things I'm saying no to are good things. To be honest, sometimes it does feel a little like we mothers with little ones miss out on some really fun things - we definitely don't have much free time anymore and sometimes it can be lonely. I also have struggled with feelings of guilt at times, because others thought I was being silly by saying no or didn't understand my reasons.
On the flip side though, I am always gently reminded that this is only a season in my life, one that will be gone long before I'm ready. I would not trade letting my newborn sleep on my chest all day, rocking my baby to bed, or holding her in the video venue at church for the first 6 months of her life for a thousand 4th-of-July firework shows. Besides you all know that taking your baby to 10 pm fireworks would not be fun for her or you ha ha. Now I am in no way saying that we shouldn't get to go out on dates or do fun things - we absolutely should - and we need to! I am just saying that the Lord has encouraged me that saying no to some things is good and healthy and okay. I know everyone doesn't always understand or may think I should be doing more, but that's alright, because I know I'm right where I need to be - pouring into my family in this season.
I love this season of motherhood I'm in. Having a baby was not an easy road for us, and as sappy as it may sound, it truly has made me cherish and enjoy every moment. The more mobile she becomes and the more she changes daily are such a bittersweet reminders that these baby days won't last forever, and that being her mom is a special calling and truly a place of ministry in itself. It hasn't always been easy, but I have never once regretted going part-time at my job, leaving gatherings early when I needed to, or saying no when I just didn't feel it was right for us right now. It is my hope that we can all give each other grace, understanding and encouragement no matter what season of motherhood we may each be in, because that's how the body of Christ should love.