Step Back

posted on: Monday, May 5, 2014

 photo eeaa8b7b-aa21-453b-b266-9f2d0de91ed0_zps09a30a85.jpg  photo 9edd2113-4c69-4eba-87ea-18cd24f43162_zps40c33443.jpg

Well.... I guess I needed a blogging break and I didn't even realize it :)  It was several little things all piled up on top of one another.  I have been feeling the need to step back a bit from social media.  And not necessarily blogging. I love documenting our day to day life and it's a fantastic way to share it with family that lives far away.
But more along the lines of Facebook, Instagram, texting.  I think it had just become for me something that I did without thinking.  Standing waiting for my coffee to brew...check instagram.  Sitting in line at the bank...see what's going on with instagram/facebook. All very mindless checkings. But pulling it up on my phone nonetheless.
Last week at one of the kids' soccer practice, the coach was being a bit stricter than I preferred.  I glanced around at the other parents to see what they were thinking.  It was one of those moments that will forever be etched in my memory.  Parent to parent...I kept looking...and each one had their phone out.  It was a slap in the face for me.. because how often has that been ME?
I think that social media can be such an incredible thing.  It connects us with people, it can be an encouragement... but at the same time it can be such a lie.  We're caught up in this false lifestyle through a screen.  And we're missing out on what is happening right in front of us.  Missing out on the moments that are important. Even if it's something as simple as standing and watching your coffee brew.
I don't want my kids to remember their mom as always having a phone in her hand or in front of her face.  I want it to be nowhere in their memory.  For me, that means setting it in a spot and leaving it.  No, it doesn't mean I'll not respond to texts or calls. But I will make sure that I am doing those things when my kids are down for naps or in bed for the evening.  These days with them in my home are so precious. I don't want to waste one minute of this sweet time seeing what's happening in some random persons life on Instagram. What a waste. And so sad that that's what our society is coming to.
This doesn't mean that I plan on ending my blog or instagram. Not at all! Just making sure it's all in moderation (aka...after my babes go to bed ;) ).
Hope your weekend was a great one!!!






12 comments:

  1. Amen! I've been feeling the exact same way lately. Tonight, after dinner, we ran into our little country town to get milkshakes from Sonic and I left my phone at home & rode in the backseat with my little girl (who is almost 2). We had such a fun time and I surely would have missed all the tickling and giggles, had I rode up front and poked around on social media like I normally do when my husband drives!

    ReplyDelete
  2. I agree. I left Facebook a year ago because of this but I still find myself on social media waayy too much. I hate that I feel like I'm on ig more than I was playing on the floor with my boys for the day.

    ReplyDelete
  3. I've noticed a sharp increase in my social media usage lately. After reading this, and seeing your post on Instagram about the same issue, I took a step back and realized I use it as a distraction from real life. A way to escape nervous energy and boredom... a distraction from my own thoughts. Instead of opening FB for the umpteenth time in a day, I need to take that moment to acknowledge that I am a bit jittery about our family's upcoming cross-country move. About transitions. Also, in the process of trying to capture every potential photo-op on my iPhone, I miss the beauty that can present itself in an unscripted moment... which defeats the purpose. You articulated that so well. Yesterday I took the time to watch a video circulating the internet lately, and it brought about a huge moment of clarity. Have you seen the video "Look Up"? It's so well done, well said and right along the lines of what you're saying. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z7dLU6fk9QY)

    ReplyDelete
  4. Thank you for this! My friend and I have been discussing this same exact thing and how the kiddos know when your not paying attention to them. Life is too short to be stuck on a phone all the time. Going to do better at this myself!

    ReplyDelete
  5. I dropped off of Facebook a few years back and felt like I had been let out of prison. Then, about a month and a half ago I "took a break" from Instagram which has actually led to not really being on there at all anymore. I can't tell you the FREEDOM I feel! I play with my babies more, I get more house work done, my mind does less wandering and comparing. I'm LIVING life! I only check Blogger and made sure to edit my reading list down to a very small, select group of blogs that are encouraging/motherhood blogs. I'm sure one day I'll even cut that out. Life is too short and too good to be looking at a screen all day at someone else's.

    This is a revelation straight from God, I'm telling you! So proud of you for not ignoring it:)

    ReplyDelete
  6. Oh my goodness, this is what's been weighing soooo heavy on my heart this week! I saw a YouTube video that is seriously life changing (found it on Facebook of course!;)). If you have five quiet minutes, check it out. It's called "look up".

    ReplyDelete
  7. Oh haha, I just realized someone already commented and told you about the video:)

    ReplyDelete
  8. I love this and totally agree!! ��

    ReplyDelete
  9. oh thank you for posting this. I'm right there with you. Two weeks ago I stopped carrying my phone around with me like it was my 3rd arm.. I didn't even realize I did that... but somehow I was. Same as you, making a bottle checking IG...coffee...IG.... yada yada. So I started leaving my phone beside my bed & instead I grab my "real camera" to snap pictures of life and I'll eventually post them on my blog or just keep them to myself. I'm kinda done with Facebook for a while & I'm not as concerned about IG. I love online community it has blessed me with real life best friends but my littles & my priorities mean more. :)

    ReplyDelete
  10. All in moderation is great advice! I don't (yet) have a smart phone, but I am never far from the computer at home, and that becomes an issue. I'm really trying to narrow down the blogs I read and the people I follow on FB so that it takes much less time to check for updates, and I can be more present with my sons & husband :)
    www.floralandfudge.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  11. So good Ashley! About a year ago I stopped following certain blogs. After reading these mommy/fashion blogs, I felt so empty and jealous and left wanting.... comparing my life to theirs and then getting angry that my life wasn't as "beautiful looking". In February I deleted my personal Facebook page, and it has been so good. However, IG is still a weakness at times and I need to step away more often as well. I want to be an INTENTIONAL mama and wife, and with social media these days, it feels harder and harder to do so. Trusting that Jesus will lead us to not just be the mom's and wives that we want to be, but be women who have character, integrity, and know the best boundaries and limits for ourselves in these areas. XOXO

    ReplyDelete