Friday, March 14, 2014

10 Day Marriage Challenge

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Tonight we had some friends of ours share an incredible marriage challenge with us.
You do the challenge for 10 days with your spouse and end the 10 days with a date.

Marriage is hard.
Especially in the society that we live in.
Whether your marriage is at an all time low or at an all time high...
we need to be cultivating and pouring into our spouse.
We need to be strengthening and protecting our marriages.

Which is where this 10 Day Marriage Challenge comes into play.
We would love if you and your spouse would join us the next 10 days!
We're planning on starting tomorrow (Saturday).

If you're joining the challenge and are instagram you can use the hashtag
#10daymarriagechallenge to link up any pictures you might take during the challenge or simply to spread the word!
My name on there is @thevanillatulip

I told Travis that we were going to take a daily picture of the two of us to document each day.
He was thrilled ;)

I think it would be fun for everyone to report back after the challenge!
I'll be doing a follow up post on day 11.
I'd love for you to join up with us!

-Here is the assignment sent over directly from our friends-

Assignment: Spend an hour or so going over your nightly "Top 10".  No matter how much you think you know about each other, this process is enlightening/shocking/humbling all in one.  The way to go about this is to set a time (which could be "after the kids go to bed") and discuss your answers for an hour or so.  You can either write your answers down right before you meet or throughout the day.  But they have to be written down before the scheduled time. 

Day 1- What are your Top 10 favorite characteristics about one another? Why? (wife writes 10 for her husband. And the husband will write 10 for his wife)

Day 2- What are your Top 10 favorite characteristics about yourself? Why? (Wife writes about herself. Husband writes about himself)

Day 3- Where are 10 places you have never been to but would love to go? Why? (again, these are individual lists.  You each write your own)

Day 4- What are 10 of your biggest pet peeves? Why? (in general, not necessarily with one another)

Day 5- What are your 10 things you hope your kids learn from you? Why?

Day 6- If you won $100k tomorrow... what 10 things would you buy yourself? Why? (you cannot save it or spend it on anyone else. You MUST spend it all on yourself)

Day 7- What are 10 things that you would like to improve on personally? Why?

Day 8- If you could invite 10 people to dinner, alive or dead, who would they be? Why?

Day 9- What are 10 things that your spouse can do for you, or does for you, that you really value/appreciate? 

Day 10- ***Do this one over a date-night dinner***  What 10 things do y'all want to accomplish in the next year? Do this list together and once you are done talking about it and putting the list together, put it in an envelope and store it.  Then make a point to open it in a year!


  1. Ashley I just want to say thank you so much for posting this. I'm sitting here pumping looking at my favorite blogs, TMI? Anyhow my husband and I are getting ready to head out on a kid free vacation and I'm feeling guilty about going without them, being stuck to this thing, and overall having a hard time leaving. Reading this this morning reminds me of why we are doing this and we'll be doing this challenge with you while were on vaca and when we get home. Thanks again

  2. I absolutely love this idea!!
    Steve and I will take you up on this challenge! :)

  3. Loove this! So important to prioritize your marriage. Great list.

  4. Thank you so much for posting this. My husband recently lost his father and it has been a tough winter. We really need each other the most right now and this list is great starting point. :)

  5. Thank you for sharing this. My husband and I are just coming out of a rough year and I think this will only help to solidify the depth of our union.

  6. Great post! I'd love to do the challenge with my husband, hopefully he'll like it too :)

  7. Love this!! So glad to learn of it! We will definitely be doing this. Thank you for sharing.

  8. DH and I are off on a vacation...this looks like the perfect time to do this challenge. Thanks for sharing.

  9. I can't wait to do this. I shared a link to your post on my blog today. This is such a great and simple idea. We can always find ways to be closer, because life's twists and turns can change perspective. This is a good touchstone that we hubs and I may make a yearly event. Thanks, Pam

  10. this is such a great idea! I will definitely be doing this with my husband. Thank you!

  11. soo look forward to doing this! thanks for sharing

  12. I love this, we have been married for 27 years and together for 32, but we still need to remember that we cannot take things for granted. xox jean

  13. Love this but have a suggestion...for couples who don't have children (and won't) do you have a substitute for question 5?

  14. My husband and I love this idea! We're planning to do this too, except we're gonna do it over ten weeks instead of ten days so we have plenty of time to think about them and talk as much as we want. Thanks so much for this!

  15. It's so good to have real conversations and get to know more about each other!

  16. I'm getting married in May, and I'm definitely book marking these!

  17. Love this...going to share on my blog!!!! Thanks!


  18. what a wonderful idea ;)
    we're going to go for it!

  19. Hi! I found your post through the bloglovin' recommended list and love it. My husband and I are starting it today! Thanks!!

  20. I love this! Bob and I are totally in, though we will be starting two days behind ya'll. Thanks for sharing!

  21. great post! I think we'll be doing this very soon!

  22. I love this idea!! I am now wondering if I can get the other half to participate!! :) lol

  23. oh how fun, love this idea. thanks for sharing. I'm sure my husband will be thrilled about the picture part as well ;)

  24. This has been a great time and experience so far, and we are only at the end of Day 2!! Wow!! What we are learning and the conversations that are coming from each and every response. And we are not even married.


  25. This is a great idea! We are going to modify since our schedules are crazy, and do 1 per week, so this will get us sitting down and talking about this stuff every Wednesday night. Looking forward to it! :-)

    Thanks for sharing!



  26. I love this! (found this post from Harrells on Hood!) definitely bookmarking this for us to do! thanks for the wonderful prompt!

  27. We completed the challenge and made a mini scrapbook to keep it in! Thanks so much!

  28. We loved doing this! I wrote a post about it and the book we made to keep it in!

  29. Shared in a post today about how we did this challenge. Thanks so much for sharing. We loved it!