Thursday, October 20, 2011

Being Intentional- Part two

Being Intentional- Part 2 (with my husband)
Being intentional with my husband.
Let's face it...when you get married it's all about your husband.
Until the kids come.
Or until your job gets hectic.
Or until life just gets plain old busy.

Our husbands (besides the Lord) need to be our number one priority!
My mom always gave a great little word of advice once my babies were born...

"children are a wonderful ADDITION"

Meaning...they should not be the center of our home.
Our relationship with our husband needs to come first and foremost.

I for one have been guilty of all of the above (besides a job obviously).
It's so easy to get the kids to bed at night and want to kick my feet up and zone out.
Get on the a book... then it's time for bed and that's the day.

So here's what I've decided to do to be more intentional about making Travis number one.
And obviously this is just what I personally plan on doing.
Each couple and person is different!

-Wake up when he gets up to fix him a warm breakfast.
-Pack him a yummy lunch
-Send him texts throughout the day knowing I'm thinking of him
-Have a good meal waiting for him when he gets home from practice
-Try and tidy up the house before he gets home
 (this is a BIG one... I know he really appreciates coming home to a tidy and cozy home)
-Making him cookies in the evening (store bought ones ;) )
-Closing the computer and putting my phone aside to spend one on one time with him

As you can see alot of how I can serve my husband best right now is with food :)
I know he feels loved when I think ahead to prepare good things for him to eat.


In a society where around 50% of marriages end in divorce it is so incredibly
 important to fight for our marriages.
It's not easy.
It's definitely not easy to put someones needs above your own.
Trust me :)

What I do know is we're in it for the long haul.
Good days and bad.
For those of you girls that read the blog that aren't married...
another wonderful piece of advice from my mom...

"marry your best friend"

I couldn't agree with her more.
I'm so thankful I did :)

Anyways... I feel like these posts are very helter skelter.
Kind of a jumbled mix of thoughts I've had lately.
I want to encourage each of you that is a wife to be intentional in how you love on and serve your husband!
It seriously can be fun thinking up little ways that might brighten his day!
He doesn't need to know what you're up to...
Let's just spoil our husbands without them realizing what's going on :)


Thanks for bearing with me and reading the chaos of thoughts!
I appreciate each and every one of you!
Have a good weekend!


  1. Love this post. Its so true! And I agree with it 100 percent. Being a SAHM has really made me appreciate what my husband does for me. I was a full-time working single mom for so long and now that i have such an amazing man who takes care of my every need and loves me with his whole heart and Wants me to be home with my little girl there is no way I ever want him to feel unappreciated. No, I'm not perfect so this is such a great reminder. Thank you! xoxox

  2. Love this post. I totally agree with you as well. I'm going to be more intentional with my husband too!

  3. I went to a wedding in April where the pastor reminded everyone that in marriage our jobs as husbands and wives are to serve each other. So I try to remind myself of that every day, "How can I serve my husband?" It's an especially good reminder when things aren't going so great.

  4. THis is beautiful. Such wonderful advice. I couldn't agree more my friend!

  5. Your posts are not helter skelter....they are AMAZING! :) You speak from your heart, you speak the truth, and you are not afraid to share your life (the good and the bad). That is more refreshing than you know!!! :) Love reading your blog because of it!

  6. I remember a pastor saying when I was just a newly wed..." folks, your spouse can always find someone, younger, prettier, richer...but you should make it your number one goal that they will never be able to find someone that treats them better." great post!

  7. Helter skelter or not (which I totally don't think they are), I'm loving these posts. They're so motivational and so applicable. We have our first baby on the way, so I'm definitely going to have to learn how to be intentional with my husband pretty soon.


  8. Stumbled to your blog through a series of clicks and so glad I did. :) You and your blog are absolutely lovely! :)