Training up our children is hard. And it is constant. You have to be on your A-game all the time. Always watching. Always correcting. Always guiding. Always encouraging them to do what is right.
Each family parents differently. I love the beauty in that. You do what works for your family. You adjust and readjust. You make up your own rules. And sometimes you carry down the rules and guidelines that your parents had for you when you were a child.
One of the things that we have carried down from my parents and use in our own family now is, "first time obedience."
My parents used to teach classes called Growing Kids God's Way.
"First time obedience" is exactly what it sounds like.
Our children are expected to obey the first time.
We don't count to three.
They don't get a second chance or a third chance.
You come the first time you're called.
And you obey the first time you're told to do something.
Do our kids obey first every single time?
But we're getting there.
It's hard and it takes time and effort to train them to obey the first time.
Right now the one we struggle most with in this area is Cade.
He's two and he has the mind of a two year old.
He wants his way or the highway :)
But here's why we stick with it and why we're huge believers in first time obedience.
It's for their safety.
Here's an example of where it worked like it was supposed to.
Last week I took the kids to the park.
Long story short there was a man in sunglasses there who made me feel super uneasy.
He wasn't with a family and just hovered around where we were.
He left the park and went in the opposite direction of our car.
I loaded up my kids in the stroller and as I was almost to my car he pulled up in a vehicle to the side of my car.
There was nobody else in the parking lot.
No one to see or hear me if I needed help.
I was able to open the passenger door of my car and told my kids "get in the car NOW!"
There was no arguing or asking why. They all climbed in immediately.
First time and quickly.
Just like I have been training them to do.
I climbed in the same door after them and locked the door.
He drove away once we were all locked in.
I have never been more shaken or rattled as a mother.
What if's have been in my thoughts since then.
What if my children didn't obey first time.
What if Cade would have ran the other way instead of into the car.
There was no time to count to three.
No time to chase a toddler.
No time to argue with little ones about why they had to get in the front passenger door.
They obeyed the first time.
I have praised and thanked the Lord every day since then for His protection on our family that day.
Praised and thanked Him for my children's first time obedience that day.
Needless to say our First Time Obedience rule has been enforced even more since that day.
It's so important to have my little ones obeying me first time.
Not just because it's nice when they listen but also for their safety.
I would love to hear some of the rules in your home that relate to obedience.
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